“Happily ever after” isn’t free, marriage takes work.
The idea of soulmates has created false reasoning; the fallacy that the only thing standing between you and “happily ever after” is the task of finding a soulmate.
What a lie!
The truth is that marriage doesn’t come with a 100% guarantee. It is the most intimate of relationships where two people, brought up differently, become husband and wife. As such, it takes work.
According to Tom and Lynette Lichuma, authors of “To the Altar and Beyond”, and who have been married for 40 years, “Marriage involves work. Both partners have to work together through companionship, intimacy in order to find joy and happiness in each other.”
Their book is about marriage and what it takes to enjoy a marital relationship. Its mission is to demystify and elaborate upon the realities of marriage through the experiences of couples who strive to have a successful relationship daily.
The book expounds on the fact that “Happily ever after” isn’t free, so we asked them how to go about keeping the relationship strong. If you’re willing to put in the work, here are ten ways to keep your relationship strong and vibrant.
Communication is key in any situation but when it comes to marriage, it is the glue that holds the marriage together.
Putting your all into the relationship and trusting it will stand the test of time.
Cooperation in decision making
Don’t leave each other out when making plans or anything else. Work as a team, always.
Building trust and openness
Harbour no secrets
A family that prays stay together. That still holds true. Prayer brings the spouses closer to God and each other.
Love and respect
A woman’s greatest longing is to be loved by her husband while the greatest longing for a man is to be respected by his wife.
Appreciate the little things you do for each other.
Space and privacy
Realistically speaking, you can’t be around each other 24 hours a day. Everyone needs a breather. Space and privacy are good for marriage, it allows you to freely mingle away from each other.
Nobody is a saint. We all make mistakes. Learn to forgive.
A good healthy sex life spices up the marriage and keeps it vibrant.
About Tom and Lynette Lichuma
Tom & Lynette have been married for 40 years and are blessed with seven children. They are members as well as animators of the Worldwide Marriage Encounter Movement in Kenya.